Excerpt from the July 11, 2012 podcast show on A Fine Time For Healing
Every day a barrage of forces come at us telling us what to believe, what to think, how to look, and how to live our lives. We are bombarded with information coming to us on television and through the World Wide Web. The pressure is on to conform to political standards, religious standards, family standards, financial standards, and the standards of popular culture icons we admire. It feels like we are constantly being judged.
We all have people in our life who tend to judge us. The main problem with judgment is that it comes from imperfect people, and their opinions are slanted by their uniquely individual perceptions just as ours are. Opinions are not right or wrong, good or bad, they are just opinions.
How many people do you know who regularly reflect upon their opinions and make needed adjustments? Probably very few because people get comfortable with their point of view and tend to resist change. But think about it—our lives and the world around us are constantly changing. That means we have to change with it in order to adapt. But more importantly we have to change to continually raise the consciousness of our souls. We must grow and change to evolve.
Whether it is a healthy or unhealthy one, everyone has a self-concept. We start developing it soon after we are born. A self-concept is comprised of the beliefs we have about our self-identity, self-worth, and self-image. It is shaped by the people in our life, our life experiences, and the impressions we personally attach to those experiences. It is the way we define ourselves. Our self-concept is what shapes our perceptions and the way we experience life. And it is where our personal truths come from.
Your truths are different than anyone else’s truths. Your needs are different than anyone else’s needs. The journey into discovering your personal truths is one you must take if you truly want to know yourself—if you do not want to live your life according to the truths of others—if you do not want to live your life by default.
We each come here on a charted path. Though we exist in a world of people and develop many relationships along the way, we are essentially alone on our Earthly journey. Before incarnating, each soul pre-plans a mission that only that soul can fulfill. The lessons, experiences, and challenges our soul selects are chosen with our highest good in mind. Once we enter our physical bodies we have the free will to decide how we want our lives to play out. But how can we decide what we want from life if we don’t know who we are?
Your personal truths are the foundations on which your life stands so it is wise to be in touch with them. But you must not only know your truth, you must live it. You must be authentic in all you do. That involves staying true to your vision and your values; living life on your terms no matter what external pressure is being put on you. It means saying no when you want to say no and yes only when you want to say yes. It means loving, respecting, trusting, and honoring yourself whether others do or not. It requires pushing past your fears and moving forward, no matter the obstacle. It means taking responsibility for the life you live and having faith in your choices. To live your personal truths you must also love, honor, and respect others. You must honor and respect the life you have been given and the world you exist in. To accomplish these things, change is inevitable.
You cannot change what you do not acknowledge. To help define your personal truths, ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly.
- How do you define yourself?
- What are your strengths and weaknesses?
- Who or what influences the way you feel about yourself?
- Are you in control of your thoughts or are your thoughts in control of you?
- What messages, positive or negative, replay in your head?
- What messages would you like to change?
- In what ways do you feel inadequate?
- What is the level of appreciation you have for your body?
- What are your convictions and how strong are they?
- What boundaries have you set and do you honor them?
- What are your core values?
- Are you living up to your personal standards?
- What does success mean to you?
- Who do you trust and why?
- Who do you love?
- Where does your faith lie and how strong is it?
- How empowered are you in your life?
- In what ways do you give away your personal power?
- What motivates you?
- What do you want out of life?
- What do you hope to have or become?
- What does your future look like and feel like?
- Why do you believe you are here?
- How do you connect to the Universe?
- What would you like your legacy to be?
If you have never given thought to your personal truths these questions may seem overwhelming. Write them down and start with the easiest ones. There is no hurry. Since you are constantly evolving, this is going to be an ongoing process that you will revisit from time to time anyway, so put no pressure on yourself. As you work through these questions, base your answers on your current reality, not on what has happened in the past, and be truthful with yourself.
Make a commitment to expand your way of thinking. Challenge your current beliefs to become aware of any needed changes. Strive to become more than you ever thought you could be. Believe that you can make a difference in this life. Start on a path of personal growth, a journey to self discovery. Then move toward your goals one day at a time. You are worth the effort! Reaffirm that belief often.
You are here for a reason. You are supposed to be your beautiful awesome self. Value the qualities or quirks that make you who you are; they are part of a bigger picture. You are an integral piece of the universal puzzle. Every puzzle piece is different, yet they all fit together. What is required is that you be authentically you.
Once you know your personal truths, speak them lovingly and kindly when you share them. Do not be self-righteous. Your truths are not right and they are not wrong. You do not have to defend or explain your truths, nor do you have to make others agree with you. There are many paths to take in life. Everyone chooses their own. So acceptance of our own and other’s uniqueness is a goal we should all work towards.
To hear the show in its entirety go to What Are Your Personal Truths?