Is Codependency a Problem in Your Life and Relationships
Written by Randi Fine
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Take The Quiz
To find out if you are suffering from relationship codependency, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
- Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own?
- Are you drawn to relationships with people who lack stability and/or are irresponsible in a particular area of their lives?
- Do you have a compulsive need to help, nurture, fix or control others?
- Are you always looking for the potential in others, rather than accepting others as they are?
- Do you cling to hope that your partner will change, beyond all evidence of rationale?
- Are you attracted to people with addictions?
- Do you believe your relationship will be perfect when your partner changes?
- Do you feel responsible when your partner doesn’t change?
- As a child were you subjected to family dynamics such as repeated anger, extreme rigidity, violence, manipulation or abuse?
- Were you raised in an environment of addiction?
- Do you feel as if you cannot survive without a love relationship?
- Do you strive to please everyone in your life because you believe others only like you when you do?
- Do you make excuses for the bad behavior of others?
- Are your relationships emotionally or physically abusive?
- Do you believe you need to earn love to get it?
- Do you believe that you can love someone enough to change or fix her or him?
- Have most of your love relationships been painful?
- Do you withdraw from people because you don’t want them to know the life you are leading?
- Is it hard for you to accept healthy love?
- Do you do things for others that they are capable of doing for themselves?
If you answered yes to five or more questions, it is likely that codependent issues are responsible for the relationship problems you are having. This test is for screening purposes only. It is not a formal diagnosis. Please see a qualified therapist or counselor to further evaluate and diagnose you.
More about Codependency
- Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction
- Recovering From Relationship Codependency
- Personal Boundaries Build Healthy Relationships
- Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Learn to Be People Pleasers
- Recognizing Codependent Behavior
- Some Situations Call for Tough Love
- Dysfunctional Romantic Relationships
- Codependent Narcissist Relationship Dance
- Overcoming Adversity
- Healthy Boundaries Prevent Emotional Abuse
- Relationship Codependency Exposed
- Feeling Over Responsible Feeling Guilty
- Codependent Tendencies Include Low Self Esteem
- Codependency Poem
- Emotional Relationship Boundaries
- Six Red Flags Demonstrate Codependency
- Kindness Codependency Contrasted
Randi Fine is an internationally renowned narcissistic abuse expert and coach, and the author of the groundbreaking book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing, the most comprehensive, most well researched, and most up-to-date book on this subject. In addition to helping survivors recognize their abuse and heal from it, this book teaches mental health professionals how to recognize and properly treat the associated abuse syndrome. She is also the author of Cliffedge Road: A Memoir, the first and only book to characterize the life-long progression of complications caused by narcissistic child abuse.