There Are No Coincidences
Written by Randi Fine
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
In the 1920’s, the Swedish psychologist/physicist Carl Jung first coined the term “Synchronicity” to explain what he referred to as “meaningful coincidences.”
The word comes from two Greek phrases with the meanings, “Joined with” and “Time.” He developed this concept while investigating the phenomena of the collective unconscious, and after observing the many astonishing coincidences shared by his patients. In Synchronicity: An Acausal Connecting Principle, the 1952 article he published in a paper with related study he stated, “What I found were ‘coincidences’ which were connected so meaningfully that their ‘chance’ concurrence would represent a degree of improbability that would have to be expressed by an astronomical figure.” He was captivated by the idea that life was not a series of random events, but rather an expression of deeper order.
Though Jung coined the term, his concept of synchronicity was not groundbreaking. It had been an integral part of many Eastern philosophers for centuries. The principal is based on the universal concept that the whole universe is a living, breathing entity, and everything in it is interconnected.
We have all heard the common mantra, “There are no coincidences.” And whether believer or skeptic, we have all experienced synchronicity; the fascinating and seemingly random occurrences in life that seem too improbable to be chance.
Often we find that the timing of these messages, people, and things relate directly to current issues; that which we are presently in need of. These amazing experiences actually happen to us more often than most of us are aware of, simply because we do not pay attention or see the meanings in them. Often they go unnoticed because the signs are symbolic in nature and need deciphering.
One of the most successful self-published books of all time, The Celestine Prophecy, by James Redfield is a story based on the concept of recognizing the connection between coincidence and spiritual growth. It portrays coincidence as a fork in the road; a sign indicating a more direct route to our most profound path in life. The story does not suggest that missing the sign means we will not find our way, we always have options. Rather it indicates that there are many different routes we can take and choices we have the free will to make as we navigate through our lives.
We can all think about our lives and all the amazing ways that things have come together for us:
- The chance meetings with people that reveal just the information we have been looking for
- the trip we took to a foreign country where we ran into someone we knew
- the song that came on the radio at the exact time that we needed to hear those words
- the book given to us by a friend that sent us on a life-altering spiritual quest
- the person we ran into that offered the healing solution to our illness
- the images, numbers or symbols we repeatedly see.
In my book Cliffedge Road I write about several profound synchronicities that occurred in my life. In this excerpt I describe one of them:
With my newly found free time, I took on the project of getting the badly neglected house in shape. The only closet on the first floor was already bursting at the seams. I had no place to hang my clothes.
A large walk-in closet upstairs between the dormers had not been used, probably since Keith's ex-wife Lauren had moved out. Trash covered every square inch of the floor. I decided to clean it up and claim it for my own.
I marched in there armed with several big black trash bags and a vacuum cleaner. Then I plopped myself down on the floor and went to work.
Random papers littered the closet floor, so I began the task of separating the keepers from the trash. While going through one particular pile, I came across the back of a buried Polaroid picture. I pulled it out of the pile and flipped it over. I could not believe my eyes; it was a picture of me! The scenario came back to me when I saw the background of the picture and the clothing I had on. I remembered Lauren taking that snapshot six years before at my high-school boyfriend’s senior prom. They had both been in the same graduating class.
Assuming she had left more than one picture, I searched through all the papers on the floor. I rummaged through everything but never found another snapshot.
That picture of me had been hidden in Keith’s house for years without him even knowing it existed. He had never seen my face or at least remembered seeing it before the night he had first noticed me at Christopher’s. What were the odds?
Synchronicity exists. These phenomena show us signs that our inner world is in sync with our outer world. Each day we attract meaningful “coincidences” that help our souls to evolve. The amount of synchronicities we attract is in direct proportion to our level of conscious awareness. The more attention we pay to the “coincidences” in our lives, the more frequently they will occur to guide us on our way in our physical experience.
Randi Fine is an internationally renowned narcissistic abuse expert and coach. She is the author of the groundbreaking book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery, the most comprehensive, most well researched, and most up-to-date book on this subject. In addition to helping survivors recognize their abuse and heal from it, this book teaches mental health professionals how to recognize and properly treat the associated abuse syndrome. She is also the author of Cliffedge Road: A Memoir, the first and only book to characterize the life-long progression of complications caused by narcissistic child abuse.