In These Troubling Times
Choosing to Walk In Your Own Power
Written by Randi Fine
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
In these troubling times I would like to offer another perspective; a more realistic, hopeful, proactive one I believe.
There is injustice in this world. No one ever said life is fair. It is not. And while we may be able to somewhat rely on government to protect basic human rights, we cannot rely on them to fix all society’s ills or protect us from everyone who wishes to aggress against us. Bad things will always happen to good people.
Society by definition dictates that there must be guidelines. The job of law enforcement is to protect those who follow them from those who do not. There are bad seeds in law enforcement just as there are bad seeds in every facet of society. We cannot hold an entire group responsible for the heinous acts of certain individuals.
It is evident that persecution and discrimination against minority groups has always existed, just as it exists now. Though many activists have fought for rights and affected some change in this regard, that phenomenon in general does not appear likely to change any time soon.
It is true that each of us has the responsibility and power to affect change and that there is power in groups. Peaceful protest is our civil right. When done effectively it does command the attention of our elected powers that be and does affect change. But as of late it seems the primary message has lost its focus.
In these troubling times, other agendas have gotten piled on. Now many protesters are asking to erase the very history of the United States of America. History is not good or bad. It is just history. People did what they did when they did it, right or wrong. Those who learned better have done better. Instead of erasing the past, persecuted groups have dedicated days of honor, mourning and remembrance to the horrific events in history their people suffered. Remember, honor, and mourn—not erase.
Everyone suffers. We should never be prisoners of our past. The past is there for life lessons, not life sentences. There comes a time when we must stop being bitter for what was done to us, and walk in our own power—take individual responsibility for the footprint we make in this world and the legacy we leave behind.
The responsibility each of us has, if we truly want to spark the changes we believe in, is to personally take action. To personally focus our heart and passion on those individuals we believe need our help. We are each responsible for spreading ripples of love, rather than ripples of blame, resentment, hate, and anger.
There is power in action, not reaction—power in love, not hate—power in assistance, not resistance—power in gratitude, not resentment. There is no power in fear, blame, and anger.
A peaceful world begins with positive actions taken by committed individuals; each using their personal power to affect positive change.
Randi Fine is the author of the groundbreaking book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing, the most comprehensive, most well researched, and most up-to-date book on this subject. In addition to helping survivors recognize their abuse and heal from it, this book teaches mental health professionals how to recognize and properly treat the associated abuse syndrome. She is also the author of Cliffedge Road: A Memoir, the first and only book to characterize the life-long progression of complications caused by narcissistic child abuse.